Should a Baby Shower Be a Surprise or Not?
A baby shower is a wonderful way to celebrate an expectant mother and
the birth of her child. Showers have been given to expectant mothers for
many years and they're one tradition that's still very much in vogue. In
fact, for most cultures in which baby showers are customary, most
mothers-to-be perhaps have even come to expect that they'll be given a
shower, especially if the child is their first.
One of the big issues involved with planning a baby shower is whether or
not the event should be kept a secret or whether it's best to involve
the expectant mother with the planning. The truth is, this isn't a
situation that has a one-size-fits-all solution. Whether or not an
expectant mother will appreciate the surprise isn't something that's
The Host Knows Best
Baby showers are usually hosted by those closest to the mother-to-be,
so the host really is the one who should make this determination. Hosts
typically know the woman's personality and they also likely know about
the woman's physical condition. Some expectant mothers breeze through
pregnancy but many women don't, especially those experiencing a
difficult or high-risk pregnancy.
If the expectant mother passes the, 'She can handle a surprise' test,
then do it. The baby shower is supposed to be her special day, so let
her just show up and treat her like a queen. It may be one of the last
times she'll be the center of attention! Planning a surprise isn't any
different than planning any other type of surprise.
An invited guest should make plans to do something with the expectant
mother on the date of the shower to ensure the guest of honor won't be a
'no-show'. The host should pass the guest list around to those closest
to the guest of honor to make sure everyone who should be invited is. Be
sure to tell guests the shower will be a surprise so no one ruins the
plan, and so they park their cars away from the party location. A
surprise baby shower will be easier to pull off for someone who's
delivering a second or third child because she probably won't be
When a Surprise Baby Shower Isn't a Good Idea
Some women just don't like surprises. Sometimes, so many people are
involved that a surprise baby shower party just isn't feasible.
Sometimes the baby has his or her own delivery date in mind. Whatever
the reason, it doesn't always make sense to coordinate a surprise baby
There are advantages and the biggest is that the expectant mother can be
involved with the party plans. That way, she'll get exactly what she
wants. She can select the shower date and location, she can put together
the guest list, she can decide on decorations, and help decide what
types of food and drink to serve. The only disadvantage is that she
might become too involved with the planning and coordination and feel
exhausted before she has a chance to be celebrated.
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